Observation
Many single people who are not thinking of marriage, ask this question - "Why do people want to get married?" The ones around do research, think of personal experiences etc and come up with a few answers. And all these answers are analyzed and synthesized and they come to the conclusion that the reasons seem silly and that there is no good reason to get married. This is pretty standard.
And couples who are not thinking of having a baby ask - "Why do people want to have children?" "they are cute", "No, they are brats", "they are a delight", "No, they are trouble" and they go back and forth and the former dismiss all the reasons the latter gives as silly and they conclude there is no good reason to have a baby. This is standard too. Of all the reasons they give to support their theory of babies are redundant, the one I find funniest is that the world is already over-populated. Definitely funny.
Looks like it is still a fad for some to-be-married/just-married people to say "I am going to adopt a kid". Its a noble deed but the number of people who actually do it is so low that its negligible. I mean, the ones who do it are the ones who hadn't advertised thus.
This is definitely not what I had planned to post after India won the test series in West Indies but couldn't stop thinking about this after I read about kids, adoption etc.
posted by D LordLabak @ 8:16 PM
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Why is "Yet another software professional and a Mom" writing this?
Rajesh, received an email from an acquaintance in one of the yahoogroups regarding kids. So that got me thinking in this direction.
Hey, not fair! Not all single people talk of adoption cos it's trendy. Ofcourse, that's one reason(what i call- the braggart's false compassion). But people could also say that to make people(parents, extended family, friends etc) get used to the idea and to gather opinions, right?
hmm.. well strange enough - i thought about it..
may be :
**) from the time we're tiny, we're taught that we're going to grow up and get married. We actually have conditioned ourselves to believe that we are not a success in this life unless we do find that one perfect person and marry. It's the fad of this millenium.. next one, no one will marry! ;)
**) Because society tells us that if you are not married, you are NOT NORMAL, and something is WRONG WITH YOU! There is a social stigma associated with not being married.
having lived in western world sometime now - marriage is viewed as a level of commitment. Seriously, NO one taking that road until they live with the person for a few years... attitude is : If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. no one is in rush (may be some women due body clock) and totally cool with being single... instead of regret it later.
its only human to love and wanting to be loved & cared. may be marriage is an self-assurance that you are worth it.
cheers,
http://iamyuva.freakin.nl/
http://arrangemarriage.blogspot.com/
Keep up the good work
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