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Thursday, November 10, 2005

Boys and Girls

When I was a "new" teenager and if my brother called out my name loud on the road, he was berated in public by all the elders in vicinity. They did so because all the rowdies of the area would call me by my name. They had a point.
I have seen things like that happen. What kick does a guy get by calling a girl by her name on the road? What is so manly about it? I never understood. Also, I have seen girls crying and running home after a guy called her by her own name. Her secret identity is revealed. And then the guy feels good and the girl feels bad after this episode of "eve-teasing".
We all must have witnessed this scene in a bus stop many times. A guy is interested in a girl who is standing in the bus stop. He makes the master of all moves to woo her by asking "Hello, whats the time?". Pat comes the reply "Chee! Akka thangacchi oda purandhadhu illa?" (Don't you have sisters?) and she moves away. A "rowdier" guy would stand with his gang of friends and say things like "your salwar is nice, where did you buy?", "Is she your friend?" or some arbitrary question for which he doesn't expect an answer and he is happy with the "you idiot" look the girl throws.
Are these days behind us? Do the teenagers come up with better ideas these days? I wonder....


Blogger tilotamma said...

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11:02 AM  
Blogger Nilu said...


i still remember the stupidest lines that guys used on my sister....I don't remember any that I used though ;)

and this was ultimate - "neenga busukku wait panringala?" in a bus stop :))

1:06 PM  
Blogger Deepa said...

Agree with you Tilo. Once I was sitting on a corner seat on a PTC bus and no one was next to me. A guy who must have been very tired sat at the vacant space as much at the edge as possible with his back facing my shoulders. And some ladies started screaming. I couldnt care less and ignored but the guy got too embarassed and got up. Guess his skin wasn't think enough.:-) These things annoy me no end.
Nilu, that was funny. Did you actually belong to that un-creative group once?tsk tsk....;-)

5:21 PM  
Blogger tilotamma said...

oops! sorry deepa deleted it and here it is again.
I go to a conversation class every week - all Madras pasanga so they immediately segregate as far as seating goes though they talk to each other fairly normally otherwise.

It is not the height of emancipation to sit next to a guy but this divide according to gender pisses me off more than I can tell. Comes from years of enforced segregation. All this hello time enna nonsense is also fom there......

I might have found the answer to your MGR q.

10:10 PM  
Blogger NaiKutti said...

"Are these days behind us?" -- in cities, probably yes... in sub-urbs and rural - probably no...

i hear eve-teasing is changing to adam-teasing these days :-)

10:19 PM  
Blogger thennavan said...

This segregation is practised more in Thamizhnaadu than anywhere else. Doesn't that tell us something about how we have come to be PrudeCentral?


12:48 AM  
Blogger Ginkgo said...

those r time tested and shd prolly be done by each generation:-)

reminds of wat I did..

me in 2nd yr and the girl a fresher. So went to her and jus asked her gen stuff abt her..she was kinda scared but then warmed up...
I tht I had cracked it..and then asked her abt her skool...
dunno why, but I acted as if I knew abt the school, and said my friend studies ther 2, do u knw this guy...
she started laughing...cudnt fig out why..
then came the clincher..itz a girls only skool...:-D

1:51 AM  
Blogger Deepa said...

Naikutti, adam-teasing sounds funny but lets face it, it can never be as dangerous or cheap as eve-teasing. After all, some girls have died as a result of eve-teasing.
Thennavan you are right about "our culture".:-)
ginkgo, isnt that what we call a "bulb"?:-) Good that the girl was sportive.

11:25 AM  
Blogger Ginkgo said...

see...looks like u prolly are from the old skool..

Any impression @ the beginning just helps break the ice...good or bad...comical or heroic :-)

and NO itz not a bulb :-)

12:18 PM  
Blogger tilotamma said...

gingko 'bulb'oa..... :-)

8:53 AM  
Blogger Ginkgo said...

:-) grrrr tilotama

2:32 PM  
Blogger Deepa said...

ginkgo, you are right about breaking the ice part. Well, its not bulb if you say so.;-)

8:07 AM  
Blogger Nilu said...

My pick up line "You and I would hit it off like Scorsese and De Niro"....:))

11:46 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This happened to me during the first week of my college -
I was walking towards the bus stand. One of my senior (guy) along with his sishyas (obviously freshers, my classmates) was coming behind me making some catcall. After some time I got bugged up, turned and asked him “Pesanumnu dhaane koopita pesu!”(Meaning - u wanted to talk to me that’s why u called me, right. come on talk to me now).He never expected that kind of reaction from me. (Even I am surprised, believe me I am not a Jhansi rani kind of girl. I don’t know what happened to me at that point of time) He gave a weak smile, apologized and quickly moved out. During the entire drama not even a single person came to my rescue but everybody was staring at me as if I had done some rare feat. Slowly one of my classmate came near me and said “That's pretty cool.Aren’t you afraid of him?” I shrugged and said “he is just our senior”. She replied “He is not only our senior. He is also the ‘dhadha’ (bully) of our college”. That’s it I thought. I was cursing myself for picking up a wrong person to demonstrate my courage. The next day armed with ‘thayathu’ (divine thread which they tie in hand to ward off evil sprit) I went to my college; to my surprise that guy didn’t pestered me. Not even that day until today he never troubled me.

10:01 AM  
Blogger Deepa said...

good for you anonymous:-)

4:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yes Deeps I too feel the same :-)

7:48 PM  
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