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Monday, November 07, 2005

MS in the US

Have you heard this story before?
Mr.Guy comes to the US to do Masters. Misses home very badly in the initial months. Listens to Ilayaraaja's music, S.Ve.Sekar drama etc frequently and misses home even more. Then slowly gets into the grind of things at school, has fun with roomies, meets Ms. Girl during the "Indian night" celebration at school and they hit it off really well. The hang out together. Kishore Kumar, Rafi, ARRehman (melodies) et al find a place in his shelf thanks to her. Roomies make fun of them, ask him if they are going out. He does a "Chee, just friends da" and enjoys all the ragging inwardly. Come Valentine's Day, gathers enough courage to ask her out for dinner. She pumps her fist inside her closed room. They go out. Come summer, he decides to visit India. Calls her parents and pays a visit to her place, meets with her brother/sister and gives tips on cracking GRE. Remembers to pass on the items she had sent and also gives a few packets of chocolates. Hangs out with friends and returns home.
Then the usual school exams come and they spend more time with each other. Come winter, its her turn to go home. She wears her best clothes and visits his parents. Meets his cousin/brother/sister and gives GRE tips. Asks parents to wait before they advertise on matrimonial websites and journals. Comes back and tells him how her parents want her to get married and how this whole thing is so funny and hopes that disturbs him. Mr.Guy gets his first jitters.
Some more time passes, no more missing home and they all have fun with their respective friends circle and their "new best friend". Its already time to defend, scout for job and graduate. The tacit relationship they knew existed has to be defined now if they want to proceed.
Now, this story has 2 endings.
The first one, he "proposes" to her, she accepts, they work out a strategy by which both would get a job in the same area. Tell parents after a year, get married and live happily ever after. He feels happy that he got married to his love.
The second one, nobody proposes, they get a job each and something happens and they have a "break-up". Go to different places and start working. His parents want him to get married. They advertise in all possible media and finally find a "homely" girl that is suitable "for the family". Lets call her Ms.Girl2. She had a heartbreak when she was in engineering college/NIIT/Aptech/NIS/..... and has gotten over it totally and is ready to move on. They mail, chat, talk over the phone and discover a chemistry. He comes down, they meet and decide to get married. Back to the US and they live happily ever after. He feels happy that he didn't get married to his love.


Blogger NaiKutti said...

hehehe... heard it and have seen it a countable number of times :-)... but most often then not, the story ended with the first option not the second... second option a iruntha probably it wouldn't be so public, thats why we don't hear that often...

so finalla enna solla varinga?...

5:33 AM  
Blogger ada-paavi!!!! said...

nalla kadhai, so final a eppadi end panna porangal?

is this ur kadhai/

6:03 AM  
Blogger Deepa said...

hi-fi naikutti. We have seen the world.:-) And idhula periya karutthu onnum illa. Just my observation avaldhan.
Vatsan, thanks for saying "nalla kadhai". Kadhai already voer. Nandri meendum varuga.
This is not my kadhai. In a way, I was thinking about some perusus that say condescendingly "US la padhicchindhalum en pulla married the girl we chose". Only we know the story, right? Well, I am not generalising but I have seen this happen a few times.

4:31 PM  
Blogger Nilu said...

no, I have a ending 3.

They have enough sex and the guy gets bored of it. The girl thinks marriage. The guy thinks existentialism whenever that word is mentioned and launches into a rant - how wedding is impotent.

The girl who used to find that funny no longer does so. Calls him a jerk and they "break up".

P.S : This not a true story ;)

1:12 PM  
Blogger Deepa said...

Nilu, "then something happens and they break up" covers what you said. So its kind of ending 2 and not a different one.:-)

5:23 PM  
Blogger Hawkeye said...


totally relate to it. I fall in neither category .. but have seen it happen zillion times.

9:50 PM  
Blogger Deepa said...

true hawkeye. Looks like this rant turned out to be a well-researched one.:-) I read your review on Gajini and laughed at the line "I don't see research potential"(Nayanthara)

11:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

"US la padhicchindhalum en pulla married the girl we chose". Only we know the story, right?

Ouch that pricked me hard!!!


Very true!!!

2:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Aiyo! Naan avanillai (the anon above)

10:49 AM  
Blogger Karthik Sriram said...

Hey Deepa,

I'm doing my MS in US and sadly none of your "events" applied to me. I still listen to ARR - That too songs Like Athiradeee Kaaran kinds and still live a life that i lived in chennai when i was in SVCE, except for having family around. But yeah, I have seen this kinda 'kaadhals' blossoming - guy takes guy to grocery in his car regularly. Picks her up from school at whatever time she calls, takes her to taco bell at 1am just because she had a chalupa craving then kinds.. I can't relate to it - i feel it is more a forced 'kaadhal' when u get hitched onto somebody only because you want some emotional support and compatibility issues are rarely considered. I'm a TamBrahm and I can't imagine myself 'living happily ever after' with some one who isn't a tambrahm. And Tambrahm girls are too smart to get involved in all this mush kinds at grad stud days... This is my observation - correct me if I'm wrong.

Adhaan RUN padathile paatiliye sonnagale,

"Kazhuvaura neerula nazhuvura meenu nambooru ponnu therinjukko!"

8:51 AM  
Blogger Karthik Sriram said...

>>But yeah, I have seen this kinda 'kaadhals' blossoming - guy takes guy to grocery in his car regularly.<<

Correction - guy takes girl.... whew oru typo la ranagalam akiiten meaning ah!

8:52 AM  
Blogger Deepa said...

Thambi LKS, trust me. In SVCE group alone, I've seen umpeen cases like this. Nee graduate pannarthukkula, neeye neraya case paappa idhu maari. Tambram girls and boys incl.

2:35 PM  
Blogger Karthik Sriram said...


I never said I haven't seen this - I just said I'm not a part of the group. Naanga ellam singam aachey?!

3:55 PM  

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